evelynhoggart.co.uk https://www.evelynhoggart.co.uk Listen Talk Inspire Wed, 19 Aug 2020 14:35:33 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.5.1 https://www.evelynhoggart.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/cropped-Evelyn-Hoggart-favicon-32x32.png evelynhoggart.co.uk https://www.evelynhoggart.co.uk 32 32 The New Rules of Time and Space https://www.evelynhoggart.co.uk/the-new-rules-of-time-and-space/ Wed, 19 Aug 2020 14:33:28 +0000 https://www.evelynhoggart.co.uk/?p=133 Lockdown has brought on a ‘Groundhog Day’ feel for many people, during which each day blends seamlessly into the last.  Time slips away almost unnoticed; in what feels like the blink of an eye, three weeks have turned into six. Conditions like these can wreak havoc on the most carefully crafted routines, because the ‘usual’ […]

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Lockdown has brought on a ‘Groundhog Day’ feel for many people, during which each day blends seamlessly into the last.  Time slips away almost unnoticed; in what feels like the blink of an eye, three weeks have turned into six.

Conditions like these can wreak havoc on the most carefully crafted routines, because the ‘usual’ rules of balance and wellbeing no longer apply.  When there is no need to get up for work or school at a specific time; when there is no pressing need to make ourselves look presentable, and no reason to go to bed early anymore, each day can feel long, aimless, and strangely exhausting.

Meanwhile, our homes have suddenly become much more than a sanctuary to retreat where we could close the door to our outside daily life.  Our home now accommodates many more things that are in our daily lives from work to school to room for relaxation classes fitness routines and gyms and many other things.  Our live-in companions from loved ones to ‘flatmates have gone from the people we see for a few snatched hours every day, to being under our feet all the time.

Currently many tell me of feelings of being ‘zoomed out’ because a lot of our daily life routines are being conducted and supported by online presence.

All of this means we must clearly define time, space, and routines to create new boundaries in our home, allowing equilibriums for everyone and continues to support wellbeing.

Space: Create dedicated places for work, rest, and play

This is all about creating small zones in your home, so your days won’t feel hazy and muddled.

For example, have a space for relaxation or fitness and this is a different space from work or home schooling.  Naturally, home space can be limited, and it can be moving from one room to another or sitting on different chairs when making calls to family or business colleagues.

Time: Divide each day into time zones

It is important to continue with routine. This way it feels less like the day came and went, and more like you did something filling. You’ll spend less of your time thinking; what did I do?! That being said, it is okay to take time out to support yourselg. Getting up at the same time each day and going to sleep at the same time each evening will help your routine to ‘set’ (Create a new daily routines, that can include family time, work time, learning time, couple time, exercise time, reading time, meditation time… whichever combination you will benefit from the most!)

One last thing: as you draw up your new Space & Time Zones please don’t forget to be kind to yourself.  Include plenty of room for ‘you’ time, in which you can focus on recharging.

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It’s lonely being a leader, but it doesn’t have to be https://www.evelynhoggart.co.uk/its-lonely-being-a-leader-but-it-doesnt-have-to-be/ Wed, 05 Aug 2020 14:05:20 +0000 https://www.evelynhoggart.co.uk/?p=129 I read this article in the Sunday Times Magazine, appropriately published in time for Loneliness Awareness Week, which ran from 23rd June, 2020.  Since ‘Lockdown’ due to the Coronavirus crisis, we are now becoming increasingly aware of how loneliness can be detrimental to our wellbeing – both physically and mentally – and that we are […]

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I read this article in the Sunday Times Magazine, appropriately published in time for Loneliness Awareness Week, which ran from 23rd June, 2020.  Since ‘Lockdown’ due to the Coronavirus crisis, we are now becoming increasingly aware of how loneliness can be detrimental to our wellbeing – both physically and mentally – and that we are all susceptible to it!

Most of us have experienced loneliness and isolation at some point – possibly at many times during our life – whether we have acknowledged it or not. Now, there seems to be greater awareness of loneliness as an issue. We are encouraged to realise that we are not alone and that there are many ways of expressing our feelings of loneliness and seeking support to help combat them; from helplines, such as the Samaritans, Movember.com, online resources, and even a government initiative designed to help tackle loneliness: https://letstalkloneliness.co.uk/#ldnse.

Loneliness causes and effects

Feeling lonely can be a result of so many things that affect our life: bereavement, the breakdown of relationships, loss of work, health issues, and financial losses… the list is long. Anyone can have a sense of a loss of meaning, purpose and belonging.  Thoughts of failure, fear and “no one can really understand me”, or “what I am going through?” can lead to anxiety and regret, causing greater or more long-standing issues, emotional and physical pain.  In those situations, it can feel like our world is falling apart; yet so many leaders put on a brave face and carry on, or feel pressured to do so, even though all the internal walls are crumbling.  Denying these lonely feelings and putting on the mask of a ‘brave face’ while continuing to support others, while the person who needs your support most is YOU!

Give yourself an oxygen mask first

Think of it as the aeroplane analogy of putting the oxygen mask on yourself before attending to the people around you in times of extreme turbulence. This is a way many of us can learn to cope when things are not quite right, or when we are faced with a difficult situation. At this stage, it is vital to show kindness to yourself; to find the courage to do the right thing for you in that situation. Many of us turn first to excuses: ‘there are others worse off than I…’, “I have to think about x, y and z and then the financial implications…” If we are the head of the family, the financial provider, or main carer we become invisible, because we are not the priority.

Denial, not listening to that inner voice telling you something is not right and the excuses to not take care of yourself can lead to additional problems. Neglecting yourself after sleepless nights and/or not nourishing your body properly when ‘burning the candle at both ends’, or the other extreme, compensating yourself with a comfort such as eating, drinking too much of the wrong things. You might find yourself, like many others in the COVID-19 lockdown quarantine period, buying items you don’t really need or want, seeking comfort through the crisis. None of these serve you well or combat the core feelings that are causing the issues.

Interventions and support in stressful times

  1. Care for yourself

Self-care, however basic, can be the first important step – think better sleep, food, hydration. Exercising your creativity while taking a break from the screen or meetings, by getting out into nature or trying some creative writing, painting, reading something that inspires you. Getting some exercise, even if it is a 15-30-minute walk to clear your head and blow away the cobwebs. These breaks away from the norm and business stresses help you to express your emotions, which allows you to become strongly aware of how you feel and helps you accept the situation, so you can let go.

  1. Write it down

Keep a journal to help you address and accept your feelings in a practical and creative way. You may find patterns and recurring themes that can help you get to grips with what doesn’t feel right.

  1. Talk to someone who understands

Share your feelings in a safe space. These could be:

  • There are several helplines, the NHS have a valuable helpline listing an A-Z of support in crisis: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines/
  • Reaching out to others who have had similar experiences and someone you can trust and won’t judge and this can be a friend, a relative, colleague or your doctor
  • Create and tap into the infrastructure of support through family and friends. You never know what someone is going through or has experienced; you may be surprised by the support and understanding that you didn’t realise you already have.

 

You are not alone

You do not have to struggle with this alone and walk down the dark path of loneliness or isolation. If there is one thing, we must all learn and take to heart, it is that we are not alone!

I encourage you to be kind, be brave, have the courage to learn and listen to you. This will help you see what you need to come through and view a bright new horizon.

#Listen #Talk #Inspire

If this resonates with you and you would like a professional guide to help you get there, get in touch.

I will listen to your thoughts, feelings and concerns, talk with you about how to navigate and lead the road ahead, inspiring you to make the changes you need to come out the other side.

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Seeing something differently https://www.evelynhoggart.co.uk/seeing-something-differently/ Wed, 22 Jul 2020 16:37:30 +0000 https://www.evelynhoggart.co.uk/?p=125 How often do you find yourself looking for an item that you urgently require, but cannot find? Then, when you are not looking, there it is! Often we find ourselves in a mental block, unable to find a solution until that is, the solution is no longer relevant! This reminds me of a story about […]

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How often do you find yourself looking for an item that you urgently require, but cannot find? Then, when you are not looking, there it is! Often we find ourselves in a mental block, unable to find a solution until that is, the solution is no longer relevant!

This reminds me of a story about a grandmother and her 3-year-old grandchild out for a Sunday drive to the countryside. During the journey, the two were talking about where they were going and what they were going to do. Both delighted with excitement they were enjoying their drive. The child then turned to her grandmother; ‘when are we going to see the fallen ship?’ The grandmother thought to herself for a moment. What could she possibly mean fallen ship? We’re miles from the water… Unsure about what her granddaughter meant, she tried to change the subject… But, the child continued to ask. “Nanny, when are we going to see the fallen ship?” Each time becoming more and more upset. The grandmother could not see or understand what the child was asking, so confidently announced ‘there is no ship to be seen ‘ the child became quiet. They both spent the rest of their journey frustrated.

A few days later the grandmother realised that her granddaughter had seen a road sign for a speed camera! The grandmother had seen it according to the ‘highway code’ whereas the child believed what she saw.

Now look at the sign – is it a ‘Speed camera’ or a ‘Fallen Ship’?

There is no right answer – it is what you see.

We have been conditioned to believe we are right, and if others don’t see what we see, we will try to prove how right we are and how wrong they are! Children, with their endless imagination, can see so much more than right from wrong. We see a road sign, but because they don’t know what the sign means, it can be whatever they want, a ship, a phone, they can freely imagine what it could be rather than what it is.

I encourage everyone to think about what the things around us could be, rather than what they are. How wonderful would it be if we could see something different, a new perspective, a new outlook? 

This can bring new discussions or solutions, creating more options and opportunities, ultimately a new way of learning, making decisions and taking directions, to work around, and through mental blocks. Consider the phrase ‘think outside the box. What if there were no box? Solutions can be found all over if we keep our minds open!

Step away from what you know to be right and welcome a different view – Experience, see, learn and rediscover, it may help you with the unexpected!

Evelyn Hoggart #Listen #Talk #Inspire   

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Time to Review, Replenish, and Take Notice of the Now https://www.evelynhoggart.co.uk/time-to-review-replenish-and-take-notice-of-the-now/ Wed, 15 Jul 2020 11:23:05 +0000 https://www.evelynhoggart.co.uk/?p=116 Are you feeling the pressure to stay busy and productive during these uncertain times? Perhaps you have promised yourself that you will learn a new language, or create an artistic masterpiece, as you homeschool your children into little geniuses. While keeping constantly occupied can help relieve some of the panic brought by the unknown, there […]

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Are you feeling the pressure to stay busy and productive during these uncertain times?

Perhaps you have promised yourself that you will learn a new language, or create an artistic masterpiece, as you homeschool your children into little geniuses.

While keeping constantly occupied can help relieve some of the panic brought by the unknown, there is also much to be said for taking a step back to observe and reflect.

Through reflection, we can give ourselves a chance to look at the small aspects that make up our lives, from a brand-new perspective.  We can start to notice the tiny bursts of joy that happen every day, and we can appreciate everything around us with fresh eyes.

You could begin by keeping a gratitude diary, or by taking a few moments every evening to replay the day in your mind, focusing on all its positive moments (once you start looking for them, you’ll be amazed at how many new ones suddenly crop up, and how you’ll start watching out for them in the days that lie ahead).

My own personal ‘review and replenish’ routine involves going outside into my garden or looking through my window.  I’ll often stop for a few moments to observe a tree or blossoms from all its different angles: from its roots, all the way up to its swaying branches and gently rustling leaves of fresh new leaves.

This is one of my favourite ways to appreciate what’s happening right now.  It helps me live only in the present moment, freeing me to view life’s bigger picture, and to appreciate my place in it.

Grounding myself in the present moment means I can be grateful for the fact that I’m still healthy and breathing, that I have my loved ones around me, and that I have a roof over my head.

This, in turn, helps me to be kinder to myself and others.  I can take some much-needed time to call and connect with the people I love, and I can remind myself that excessive work and productivity are not my most important life considerations.

So, if you are feeling the weight of all that pressure, perhaps it’s time to start easing up on yourself, so you can discover your very own way of noticing the now.

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100 Days https://www.evelynhoggart.co.uk/100-days/ Wed, 08 Jul 2020 14:05:55 +0000 https://www.evelynhoggart.co.uk/?p=109 Last week saw the end of June, we also officially reached Summer season, and most importantly we completed 100 days of Lockdown! For me, the time traveled quickly and made me think about the next 100 days!  It reminded me of my work with clients who found themselves stuck or not able to find a […]

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Last week saw the end of June, we also officially reached Summer season, and most importantly we completed 100 days of Lockdown!

For me, the time traveled quickly and made me think about the next 100 days!  It reminded me of my work with clients who found themselves stuck or not able to find a way forward with their goals and have procrastinated, leaving them frustrated that their project has not even got off the ground.  With this often being presented, I founded the 100-day challenge programme that creates focus and flow, enabling clients to achieve positive outcomes; like my client who went from being stuck for 5 years writing a book to being published in 100 days!  It is wonderful to witness when individuals get brilliant results within this is timeframe.

100 days from 1st July will be around the 8th of October, and as we ease into our ‘new-new’, my question to you is, what do you want to achieve in the next 100 days?

What would you like to happen? I leave this open to you… It could be business, career, your personal and/or professional development, or is it something else, such as family, friends, or self-care?  What do you want to see completed, what do you want to do?

If you are not clear, or there is no immediate answer, do not panic or grow anxious. Instead, for the first few days of your new 100, take a few minutes each day to reflect, review, evaluate and ask yourself, what do I want? Where am I right now? What would I like to happen? What do I want to achieve by 8th October 2020?  Create a vision of how it would feel if you achieved it or got closer to success.  Remember goals are set in concrete and dates in the sand, the key is you have started your journey which is significant to you.

No matter how big or small, you can do it! Create a plan of action. What do you require, who can support you, what could get in the way? Have a vision. Pictures, boards, keep a journal! It will allow you to focus on. Most importantly, remember to have fun. Enjoy the process, it will make it easier to keep with the flow and reach your goal.

I would love to hear about your 100-day challenge. How can we travel together in the next 100 days and how can I support you achieving this?

Evelyn Hoggart #ListenTalkInspire

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Could ‘social media distancing’ be good for us? https://www.evelynhoggart.co.uk/could-social-media-distancing-be-good-for-us/ Fri, 12 Jun 2020 08:52:10 +0000 https://www.evelynhoggart.co.uk/?p=33 The post Could ‘social media distancing’ be good for us? appeared first on evelynhoggart.co.uk.

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Could ‘social media distancing’ be good for us?

I don’t know about you, but I feel extremely lucky to live in a time where connecting with others is so easy! We are living remotely, yet with one click we are connected face to face with our work colleagues, friends and loved ones!

Social media can reassure us; a news-feed keeps us updated to the latest gossip and opinions about what’s happening in the world. While other platforms can be used to inform us on how to keep on top of business during these unprecedented times.

Now more than ever it is easy to fall into a trap of obsessively checking news-feeds… Whether you’re anxiously waiting for updates or news from a loved one, it can be difficult to break the routine of swapping from app to app, and actually spend your time on yourself!

Disappearing time

While these incredible advances in technology are helping to ease the remoteness of Lockdown, allowing us to continue work and keep in touch with loved ones. They can also hinder us, by swallowing time, which can create feelings of being overwhelmed or anxiety. We need to stay connected with people, news, and information, yet it is so easy to get hooked into the virtual world and get “locked-in”! You may tell yourself, “I’ll take a quick peek” then the next thing you know you’ve spent hours in the virtual world of cat videos, crafting tutorials and opinion polls… Where did the time go? And how did you find yourself “locked-in?”.

Prioritising

Certainly, in Lockdown, many of us are enjoying getting some time back… For me and millions of others, many hours were spent commuting each week, whether to work or school, equalling ‘lost time’! Now that we have been gifted with this precious time back it can be difficult to prioritise what to spend it on! It is not to say that we shouldn’t be touching base with our devices or social media, instead of that, now is the time to be mindful and practice a new way to create a better balance to our life.

This could be the time to consider “social media distancing” spend less time on social media grazing and gazing, to gift time back to yourself!

What to use my ‘gifted time’ on

One way I am spending my “gifted time” is by revisiting books on my bookshelves. Being reacquainted with a much-loved book or reading a new book feels joyous and heart-warming, like being amongst good friends! This time has given me (and my books!) a new lease of life! A desire to learn new things and become more creative! It is absolutely wonderful and eye-opening to what else I a able to explore in this time that in return can give me hope, confidence, courage, and fun!

When we can start our ‘new normal, I will look back to these Lockdown days knowing, that I learned how to use my time wisely. And in return distance myself from the distractions that were very easy to get involved with! However, you decide to spend your time during the Lockdown make sure you spend your time on whatever makes you happy!

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